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danajen:

letstalkaboutrape:

shesearcher:

imagine the transformative potential of responding to sexual assault differently.

I am working for the day where this is how the media handles sexual assault reports. 

I kind of disagree with this. Well, no - that’s not true. I don’t disagree that his kind of message should be sent, but I also don’t understand why it’s a bad thing for media to warn women of there being a predator in their area and to be careful. I don’t see how that’s catering to the predator at all, or condoning rape culture etc.

I just think sometimes people get too caught up in the political side of it and forget that no matter what it’s a sad fact of life that there are bad people in this world.

I would never ever think that any victim of any type of violent crime whether it be a woman or a man asked for it or deserved it because of their behaviour, but no matter how the media portrays violent crimes, people will commit them. Something’s psychologically wrong with people who think it’s okay to rape or beat another human being, and no cultural change, no media message, nothing is going to change the fact that there are people out there who have these issues and will do these awful things.

What’s wrong with a little precaution? I really don’t understand.

It’s like saying when you cross the street at a busy intersection known for accidents at a green light, you shouldn’t pay any attention at all to your surroundings simply because you have the right of way.

If someone making a left turn doesn’t see you and runs you down and kills you, nobody would say it was your fault. Of course it’s not, it’s the driver’s responsibility to pay attention and be a good driver. They’d be charged.

But not everyone is a good driver. Not everyone pays attention and we know this, so why wouldn’t you take a look over your shoulder when crossing the street? Why wouldn’t you make a little extra effort to keep yourself safe?

It’s the same as if I lived in this neighbourhood described above. If I walk home alone from work every night and the news has let me know there’s a predator in the area and to be careful, I would appreciate that. If that person attacked me anyway, it wouldn’t be my fault  it would only be theirs. But at least I had the heads up to have a little extra precaution and could pay a little more attention to my surroundings to keep myself safe.

What if it wasn’t a sexual assault on a woman. What if guys were being violently mugged? Is it okay then for the news to warn them of this mugger in their area who’s assaulting people?

It’s not just about politics and women’s rights vs men’s rights and all of that, which is why I used the intersection example which has none of that involved.

It’s about there being dangers all the time no matter what in many different types of situations and that whether you’re a woman or a man you should realize that sometimes it’s not about rights…sometimes it’s just about keeping yourself safe in unfortunate circumstances. And we want everyone to be safe.

Just my opinion - I’m sure many will disagree and that’s fine.

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thank you for saying this. i didn’t want to be the guy to say it and be accused of being misogynistic. 

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